The fallacy within me

I know that God is good and He wants good things for His children. I also know that the things I think are good in my human mind are not really good in comparison to what God sees as good. Luckily He blesses us with what is truly the best for us, aka His standard of good (if we're willing to submit).
I know that I'm single because God sees that as fitting for me right now. It's too bad my head can't translate that to my heart. The phrase "two appetites in me, which one do I feed" comes into my mind right now. (That could very well be from the bible or it could be a paraphrase of what Paul has written.) The one says be practical and wait on the Lord while the other says I'm lonely and I want love right now. I've always thought that God had someone amazing picked out for me, (although some interests contradicted that belief, some did not) now I wonder if I've been self-deceived.
What seems to be the hardest thing right now is having this desire, praying for this desire to come to pass, and then watching it happen for so many others constantly. Time is slipping through my fingers I feel, and I think the gap is closing in year by year on my options. Yet I desperately don't want to settle, and I don't think I will. The other thing that I find hard is watching others do the very things they shouldn't to be in a relationship and I feel like I suffer for putting God first (trying to operate in a way that's pleasing to Him). I'm not about to date anyone unless they're saved, (share my faith and belief in Christ Jesus) I wouldn't even go out once with someone unless I knew that for a fact. God says not to be unequally yoked and you cannot take fire to your bosom without getting burned. To me if I did this I feel like I would be telling God that my desires are more important than my relationship with Him and they're not.
I guess maybe I feel like "hey God I'm playing the game by Your rules can you help me out here?" I know I shouldn't envy others, especially those that don't honor God in their conduct, but at times it's extremely hard not to wonder "what if" and do whatever it takes to gain my own happiness. I also know that's not how God's economy of grace works. (Although I could really understand the mentality of the harvesters who worked all day and got paid the same as the harvesters who only worked an hour.) God doesn't repay us for our works, but He is a GOOD father who gives what His child needs and I've got to hold on to that. I've got to hold on to the numerous promises that if you diligently seek God and wait on Him He will bless you for it. It wouldn't make me stronger or teach me anything if it wasn't difficult.